7 Things You Can Do For Your Lady That Will Blow Her Mind
Time out for getting real. Whilst writing this article, I am not-so-secretly working on some The Promise type sh*t. You know, telling the universe so this will manifest into some tall dark and handsome. Ok so telling is a bit of an understatement more like SCREAMING it to the universe. Hellooooooooo, is anybody out there? JKJKJKJK. No, I'm actually serious. Read all 7 here.
We're going to cover:
Keeping Your Word
Making a Plan
Asking and Listening
Domestic Responsibilities
Friends and Family
Things that Matter to Us
Food
So grab your coffee or your whiskey (I'm sure it's noon somewhere) and settle in for some easy-to-read, practical lessons for lovers. You might learn something that will make someone else really happy. Maybe just for funzies, try one of these out. You don't have to buy anything or particularly go out of your way. Showing your main squeeze that she's loved and knows she can count on you, that's that stuff that makes us go ahooga.
Ladies, I'd love to hear from you if want me to add anything. Email me and let's be pen pals. Go here to read all 7 thing you can do here.
Keep Your Word
If you say you're going to do something. DO IT. Please. If you don't plan on doing it or if the plans change, say it OUT LOUD in words to us. Then we know and our feelings won't get hurt and we will be less likely to resent you. If you change your mind, speak up and say that you changed your mind. Better yet, don't even say words you don't mean. Promises are nothing unless they are kept. It drives us to the brink of institutional insanity when you tell us one thing and do another. If you put this into practice, your relationship will undoubtably improve. No joke.
Monday "Let's go to the movies on Friday."
Wednesday finds out he has to work or something urgent comes up on Friday
ALSO Wednesday "Let's reschedule the movies becuase ..."
1st Week of August "Let's go to Treebones Resort the last week of August."
3rd Week of August decides he no longer wants to go
ALSO 3rd Week of August "Let's cancel our trip becuase ..."
We are far less disappointed if we know in advance that plans are chaging.
Photo: Jason Briscoe
Make a Plan
Make a plan. Ok, let's start at the top. A plan is an intention or decision about what one is going to do. Make one of those and tell us to be ready by 6. BONUS if you give us a hint so we don't wear heels on a hike. Crucial stuff. We don't care what we do, just pick something, anything. Pick the restaurant, pick the movie or the activity, just choose. I am not alone when I say, fellas - this is a panty dropper. Do it once in a while.
"Be ready by 6 and wear something casual."
panties figuratively hit the floor
overwhelming emotion from being thought of
feels so good
Photo: Matthew Kane
Ask Us How
We're Doing
When someone asks us how we're doing and listens to our answer, it's kinda like that feeling when there's a new episode of GOT. It's THAT good. Ask and then, most importantly, LISTEN. Please listen to what we say. ASK then listen. Ask THEN listen. Ask then LISTEN. Got it? Cool. Moving on. Just for good measure - ask the questions and then listen to the answer. Also put your phone down and look at me.
"How are you?"
👂
give us a moment, this feels amazing and we want to savor it
needs a couple minutes to gain composure
cries a little on the inside
Photo: Guillaume Bolduc
Do Your Share
of Domestic Chores
You are no less of a man for doing your part around the house, you are actaully THE MAN if you do chores. Go you, you are so sexy when you do chores. Traditional gender rolls really screwed us on this one, eh? We prob both have jobs, you know? We're both busy and tired so help a sister out! Just so YOU know, we KNOW your tricks. You know that thing where you do half-ass chores so we get frustrated and do them ourselves. Knock that sh*t off. Please and thank you in advance.
Does Domestic Chores
walks in and sees some chores done
remembers article 5 Simple Sex Tips That Every Woman Should Read
Photo: Matthew Hamilton
Include Our
Friends and Family
These are our people. We LOVE these people. Include these people sometimes. Living two separate lives sucks the fat one. Please note: I'm referring to days other than national recognized holidays.
"I got us 4 tickets to a show, do you want to invite your best friend and her man?"
"OMG YASSSSSSS."
feels SO good that you think of me
all of my important people will be in one place
this gesture means so much to me
he really cares about me and it feels so good
Photo: Phil Coffman
Remember Things
That Matter to Us
Different things matter to different people. Pay attention to us and see what matters to us. Here's a novel idea, ask.
Ok. Now here's the key and I'll put it in a list so it's very clear:
1. Find out dates, people or things that are important to us.
2. Tell Siri to remind you about those things.
3. This is not about gifts or flowers, this is about remembering and acknowledging things that are important to us.
Examples:
spend time with us
birthdays
anniversaries/significant dates
the fact that we love Tiger Butter
bring us a coffee
remember our favorite bottle of wine
get our favorite take out
Come on man, we're human and we just want to be thought of.
Photo: averie woodard
Cook for Us
Food is a sexy way of showing your love. You don't need to get all Tyler Florence on us. Just scramble an egg bro. Fill up the Brita. We're not asking for much. Literally the absolute minimum of effort is required here.
If you're really on a roll to be our #MCM maybe head over and review 5 Things Men Should Never Say to Women.
Photo: Matheus Ferrero