One of the most stressful parts of being a bridesmaid -- aside from the monetary commitment and all the responsibilities that come with it (balanced out by pride and joy a girl feels when she can stand beside her bestie and watch her say “I Do,” of course) is having to wear a dress that is more often than not not chosen by her. I’m in two weddings this year, and I can honestly say that I’ve had hesitations and anxieties about the fashion for both, especially having just had my son last year (there’s still some work to be done on my postpartum bod, but I’m trying not to freak out about it).
For my sister’s wedding, I helped her choose 4 silhouettes that I thought would be flattering to the entirety of her 11 bridesmaids - yes, huge bridal party - and thankfully, after a successful shopping trip last month, we all walked away with dresses that felt just right 👌. For my friend’s wedding, she chose a very pretty black dress to vibe with her classic black and white palette, and everyone will be wearing the same dress. Sleeveless, with a high illusion neckline. Something that I might not have picked out myself, but nonetheless something I think I can wear. Her bridal party is much smaller in the amount of people, and I think we all have similar body shapes, but inevitably, the dress is going to look better on some of the girls over others. Probs less amazing on me (because I was #blessed / #cursed with big boobs - and I’m not crazy about my shoulders, sigh).
Anyway, it really is a daunting thing to accept a friend/sister/cousin’s ask for you to be a bridesmaid and then have to worry about looking good at the altar, if you’re not feeling 100 percent about how the dress is fitting. So, if you’re the bride, help your squad by selecting something or thing(s) that they’ll feel comfortable and confident in. Yes, you’re the bride, but you’re a friend/sister/cousin first, so treating your tribe right is only reasonable.
Whether the crew you roll with is all tall, all short, a mixed bag, some pregnant, some junior, you can do everyone a solid by:
Choosing a hue you’re hot for and then letting your group get their own dresses (pending your ultimate approval, of course)
Choosing a designer, color, and fabric that’s the same across the board, but giving your girls the freedom to find a silhouette they love best
Choosing a silhouette that is universally flattering (no, not one size fits all, just with features that highlight every one of your lady’s best parts or can be worn/styled in a variety of ways to best fit their body)
To help you out, we’ve rounded up some of the best bridesmaids styles to suit all the sizes and shapes you have in your ‘I Do’ inner circle. Swipe along!!
One of the biggest stressors in being a bridesmaid is having to wear a dress chosen by the bride. She loves you, of course, but sometimes she’s not always thinking about you all as a collective group. What looks best on everyone. She just shops around for a pretty dress, that goes along with her vibe, and makes a decision FOR you. There’s definitely a right way to go about finding something to appeal to the whole crew, and we wanted to help you get there. So, take a look at some of the best fashions for your girl squad, all vetted with their shapes in mind. Whether you have a few maids with larger tatas or are looking at one or two who tower over the rest, we’ve got you covered. Go ahead… we know you’re curious!!
Curves.
Also. We are DYING over this dress, which is sooo perfect for bridesmaids with curves. The shirred strapless bodice + a sweetheart neckline is universally flattering, and the convertible panels can be raised and manipulated to create alternate necklines and skirt details. All to celebrate and accentuate each girls' shape. The detachable tulle sash, too, helps create definition around the waist and finish the look!
We love a dress with an elastic waist to accentuate an hourglass figure. This one (on the right) features double front side slits and relaxed fix that's adjustable at the top.
For girls with smaller busts, it's okay to go strapless, leaving your upper chest and shoulders bare. You don’t have to worry about what to wear under your dress since a strapless dress usually offers enough support for a small bust. And the draped bodice helps create volume around the chest (so you don't need to go with heavily padded undergarments).
A dress like this soft chiffon multiway style is sooo good for really every bridesmaid. Designed with a sweetheart-pleated bodice with inbuilt corset bustier, bra cups and boning for extra support, it feels super secure. And the chiffon straps can be wrapped as many ways as you can imagine - so you can create cinched detail as you want it!
For your petite girls, a style that highlights their tiny frame is ideal. We love this halter neckline shortcut style, which shows off their shoulders and decolletage. It's also a super flattering hemline to show some leg.
For your tall girls, it's all about accentuating long, clean, lean lines. Something like this streamlined column-style gown is phenomenal for just this shape. The banding at the waist brings attention to this narrow area too.
For girls who might carry more weight in their tummies, a blouson style top is great for camoflauging. Something like this A-line style is also super flattering with a loose tie belt that can adjusted + tightened as much as you want.
When you have a maid who is extra preggo, she should be showing off that bump and celebrating the little one-to-be. A style like this off the shoulder silhouette is AH-MAZE. We love the lightweight, soft, flowy chiffon fabric and the empire waist is a classic maternity favorite. Reminds us of Kate Middleton's goddess dress.
For your girls who might be small up top, with some curves on the bottom, this A-line style with a plunging neckline is perfection. The tulle skirt - especially with the stars hides any problem areas, and the deep v neck helps balance things out - to create an overall hourglass shape.
And like we said before, sometimes going with a color story and then letting your girls choose something that works best for them is the BEST way to go. Separates are a sublime idea for this... Mixing and matching offers just the right customizability for the occasion!